Accept your anxious thoughts

the brain keeps reminding you of the thought in order to remind you not to think about it. 

Acceptance is crucial. These thoughts are not in your control, and not something you should expect to control.

The idea behind this is behavioral habituation. If you stop fighting the thought and start experiencing it as often as possible on purpose, the thought will eventually become less stressful (and possibly even boring).

If it's something that you simply think to yourself, like violent thoughts, then try to have the violent thoughts on purpose until you accept that they have no meaning and allow yourself to find them less irritating.

Nevertheless, it's been shown that the more you accept the anxieties, the easier they may be to handle.

Don't assume rapport. Always plus buying temperature first.

Never assume rapport. No matter which context or who you're talking to..

You know what's funny?

You gave $20 to a homeless mean person.

But you denied a cent to a Filipina who by all means would probably be attractive if she wasn't so weird. She really tried. She prepared before hand. No wonder she would be disheartened.

Both of them could be lying.

Isn't life unfair?

So here's what you got wrong

You were in a meet up tonight.

How come the Korean guy did better than you?

Why?

He didn't take himself seriously.

He was funny.

He said he was ugly and looked like a sausage. 

He wasn't serious, too soon. Saying something like, "you're so cool and modern" which Mei didn't give a nice reply to. Like what? (1st count)

Second, you don't even connect usu w/ that serious cultural connects. (2nd count..)

Third, you said " I hope to see you again " and make it obvious (3rd count..) her eyes were like twitching because you didn't have value built or connection established

Fourth, you didn't establish value before the Hand shake in which you just wanted to perv. (4th count..)

In short, you make it so obvious that you're into her when you don't even have value built up.

Don't force a connection when it's not there. Also, that is weird to act like that in a meet up group when you're not supposed to date there YO!